If you wish to experience drama at its best, then adopt several pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had such an experience with my daughter and several her friends.
From the moment they experienced the car, I started to know things like:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He explained he liked me and it was the very best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the senior high school kids."
"I won't, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the car ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The adult drama queen says things like:
"I've fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they want but me."
"I'm such a failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to operate? Which was so humiliating."
Over the years to be a lady and experiencing womanhood, I have come to realize that people all have an episode queen that lives within us. It only becomes an issue when she's running the show. Dramacool
So, here are a few strategies for living at peace along with your inner drama diva:
1. Consider the drama, rather than from the drama
When you will find yourself being embroiled into a remarkable moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe the way the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Is it possible to observe drama adds a complexity to the problem?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. As opposed to saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," an episode queen says, "I'm such a failure. I won't, ever learn math." Or, rather than saying "I ate a bag of Oreos," she will say, "I've fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the important points of the problem, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic wants to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her only a little with proof. As an example, when she claims you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done everything you are attempting to do or find reasoned explanations why you may be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just wants to be heard and seen. Give the indegent thing 5 or 10 minutes each day to do her thing. I like to schedule in drama time when I can complain, exaggerate, cry, or just step out of my beautiful life for a couple moments to have completely trapped in drama, but I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
Most of us crave only a little excitement within our lives. The issue occurs once we use our lives since the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that element of you who craves a large production, try taking her to see an excellent show or read an excellent, trashy novel. You can walk away feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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